I remember this one time I was taking the Greyhound bus home for a weekend to make it to a Tigers’ game the next day. On the way from Flint to Detroit, I was chilling out and listening to my mp3 when I noticed this boy who was trying to spit game to this chick. I kind of watched him as he struck out swinging trying to get this girl’s phone number and other info (personally, I thought the guy was mentally off to begin with…). She would keep telling him things like, “It’s nice to meet you and all, but I’m not really interested in trying to know you or get into a relationship right now.” She saw me watching and we both chuckled and shook our heads (seriously, the guy was slow). And my first thought was: “Man! It sucks to be a woman!”
I’m sure we’ve all seen and/or been a part of cases like these. Whether it’s that girl walking past you in the mall, or (for the ladies) that guy in the club, I’m sure you’ve found yourself pursing someone who you knew was probably way out of your league. But this isn’t just limited to pursuing a soul mate (or a booty-call if that’s more of your thing). We as people find ourselves pursing things like cars, houses, and all those new gadgets that become obsolete in six months. These things are so far out of our reach, they come off like the English Premier League in soccer to our “Major” League Soccer in North America (for those who aren’t familiar with soccer leagues, think of the NFL compared to arena football, or MLB to Independent League baseball). And ironically, they all have one thing in common: more often than not, these are temporary materialistic things that you can’t take with you when you pass away. Believe it or not, there is only one thing out there that you have that no one can take from you: your goals and dreams.
Let me tell you about something I’ve recently started (and part of my reason for starting this blog). I recently established myself as a freelance publicist; except, I call it something different. The name of my side gig is the same as my username – abrothanamedCed: The Marketing Communications Artist. I see myself as more than a publicist who can write-up a good news release. It’s why I expand my services to whatever is necessary to market my clients and partners to the best of what I’m capable. Check out my website at http://www.abrothanamedCed.com. How long do I plan to keep up with “abrothanamedCed”? Until I establish myself as an official small marketing firm, or until I find that one company I decide I want to take over.
How does this relate to chasing my dreams? Well, as you may be aware (or should be by now) I’m a recent college graduate. And as some of you also know, the question you get asked the most is, “so, whatcha gon’ do now?” My main goal after graduation was to be able to stay in the Detroit area. Having matured and living here a while, I’ve grown to appreciate the city (believe me, as a kid I used to hope this place would burn to the ground). So you can imagine that I haven’t been much of a fan of the criticism the city has taken lately. It’s like this once proud city of more than a million citizens has become America’s punchline of now fewer than 800,000. Call me crazy, but I’m one of those who thinks the city can bounce back one day. And you know what’s even crazier? I want to be a part of the turnaround. Whereas others get their kicks-and-giggles living “La Vida Loca” in cities like the NYC and LA, I find that there’s something to be said about making it in the D. I guess you can say I get my thrills from being the underdog. After all, If I go down, I’d rather do it swinging!
That’s just my lengthy example! The point is, your dreams and goals are the only things really worth chasing. Men and women, money and cars, clothes, jewelry and gadgets, all of these things are only temporary. Like I said in my first post, do what you love to do and these things will come along in the process. At the end of the day, how would you feel if you couldn’t say that you didn’t spend at least a couple of days in your life pursuing your goals, dreams and passions? But, whatever you do, don’t let me tell you what your dreams and goals are. If your goal in life is to get “the hottest chick in the game wearing your chain” (Jay-Z quote), more power to you! Just make sure it’s something really worth pursuing in the grand scheme of things.
Oh, and by the way: since I know I may not make money with abrothanamedCed right away, I accepted a full-time job with BNP Media! Those student loans don’t payoff themselves you know. Anyway, I start tomorrow, so wish me luck!